If you are experiencing pain that is either chronic or has come "out of nowhere," take a moment to breathe into it. Find a quiet spot away from any distractions. Lay down or sit in a comfortable position with your back straight, and take a few deep breaths. On the inhale, breathe in through the soles of your feet up to the top of your head. And on the exhale, breathe back down and out your soles. Breathe in comfort, space and warmth. Breathe out tightness and pain. Inhale. Exhale.
Once you have established a good relaxed rhythm, pause your attention at the site of your pain and introduce yourself to that long-lost friend. What does the pain want you to know? What is it trying to tell you? It could be as simple as needing to adjust your chair at work or as insightful as realizing that your back pain comes on when you are not feeling supported in your own life. Inhale. Exhale.
One reason the breath is used in so many forms of meditation, is that it is a bridge between the unconscious and the conscious mind. While we do have conscious control over it, i.e. we breathe, when we are sleeping you might say, we are being breathed. It is an unconscious involuntary mechanism. And it is in this interplay that great self-awareness can be explored. When we tune into pain in our bodies, mind or spirit, even if the message is buried deep within our unconscious Selves, with enough time, compassion and patience, we can learn to bring it to the surface so we may finally listen to what it has been trying to tell us for so long.
When we become more accustomed to tuning in to these messages in real time, we can actually prevent painful experiences from burying deep within us; we can undo those long-standing triggers so they simply become benign events. We have an experience; we step fully into it; we feel it with all our spirit; and we let it go. We get what we need to get, we get it now, and we move on.
We inhale. We exhale. The space in between is what we call Life.
Monday, October 19, 2009
Pain as a Messenger
We often get plenty of chances to hear the messages our body and our spirit is telling us.
I am reminded of the story of the man with flood that is coming to town. One man decided that since he was a religious man, God would save him. Soon the water started rising and coming into his house. But when a neighbor came by with a car to offer to take him to safety, he refused help by saying, “I am a religious man. God will save me!” The water kept rising and by now the man was standing on his roof. Just then a boat came by to take him to safety. But once again he refused by saying, “I am a religious man and God will save me!” By the time the water was up to his neck, helicopter came by to pick him and take him to safety. But once again, he refused by saying, “I am a religious man and God will save me!” Well, unfortunately that man drowned. When he got to heaven and saw God, in a huff, he demanded to hear from God. “God, I am a religious man. I thought you were going to save me! What happened?” God replied, “What do you mean? I sent you a car, a boat and a helicopter!”
When we live with chronic pain, we are ignoring our body’s message. Something is wrong. Something needs to be fixed. How long are you willing to let that pain exist and speak to you before you finally get the point? Do you kill the messenger by simply taking a pain reliever?
Whether it is with physical pain, repetitive behavioral patterns, or poor relationship choices, when we are making choices to ignore messages of the body, the mind, or the spirit; we are choosing not to learn now what we need to learn to grow. We are like a hamster stuck on the wheel. At some point, at some time, we will be ready to step off, learn the lesson, and start a new path of growth.
I am reminded of the story of the man with flood that is coming to town. One man decided that since he was a religious man, God would save him. Soon the water started rising and coming into his house. But when a neighbor came by with a car to offer to take him to safety, he refused help by saying, “I am a religious man. God will save me!” The water kept rising and by now the man was standing on his roof. Just then a boat came by to take him to safety. But once again he refused by saying, “I am a religious man and God will save me!” By the time the water was up to his neck, helicopter came by to pick him and take him to safety. But once again, he refused by saying, “I am a religious man and God will save me!” Well, unfortunately that man drowned. When he got to heaven and saw God, in a huff, he demanded to hear from God. “God, I am a religious man. I thought you were going to save me! What happened?” God replied, “What do you mean? I sent you a car, a boat and a helicopter!”
When we live with chronic pain, we are ignoring our body’s message. Something is wrong. Something needs to be fixed. How long are you willing to let that pain exist and speak to you before you finally get the point? Do you kill the messenger by simply taking a pain reliever?
Whether it is with physical pain, repetitive behavioral patterns, or poor relationship choices, when we are making choices to ignore messages of the body, the mind, or the spirit; we are choosing not to learn now what we need to learn to grow. We are like a hamster stuck on the wheel. At some point, at some time, we will be ready to step off, learn the lesson, and start a new path of growth.
Striving Toward Wellness
What role does your doctor play in your daily life?
Do you see them only when “something is wrong?”
Is it time for a new perspective?
Let’s explore the answers to these questions in three progressive stages of health care:
1. Curative
Here, you have something you need treated: a cough, headaches, pain, indigestion, etc. We have all been in this category and will most likely be here again at some point in our lives. And because of this very real-world need, we have been conditioned to regard our doctors as people we see ONLY when we are sick. And-- chicken or the egg?-- Western medicine is well-suited in its tools to be a reactive style of medicine. When a patient’s condition can be clearly identified with a pathogen to fight or a diagnosable condition to treat through medication, surgery or other western therapies, it can be efficient and effective. How far we have come in such a short period of time is staggering to consider. But when there is no definitive diagnosis or no proven course of treatment, if these big guns are used, they are done so at a price. As more and more of you, the patient and healthcare consumer, express dissatisfaction with the side effects of medication or the, at times, extreme response of surgery, you begin to look for other approaches to address your every day health concerns.
Eastern medicine, and Chinese medicine in particular, have proven over the more than 3000 years of medical history that it too can be effective in treating most every health condition that can commonly arise in a population. It is in this place that I see most every patient that walks in my door. They come for a chief complaint, something that they need treated or “fixed.” If the issue is recent and acute in nature, resolution can be found quickly and effectively. If the issue has been chronic or has lingered, then I need to balance treating the condition with treating the underlying internal imbalance that supports the continuation of the condition. This can take a bit longer to address as we begin to explore the reasons why the body has not yet corrected itself. Once we can have such clarity, we can progress to the next stage of treatment.
2. Preventive
It is here that a new type of relationship can be forged with patients. This is where Chinese medicine excels even more. It sees connections and relationships between the various body systems and organs that allow that patient to understand how their lifestyle and food choices, their posture and emotional state of mind, can contribute to the recurrence of their chief complaint. What changes must they make to keep their condition from returning? In answering such a question, the patient learns to fish. The goal here is to see your condition return with less and less frequency and severity coupled with a growing self-awareness around the triggers that invite the condition to return. Perhaps you know, after all your experience tuning into your own body through your acupuncture treatments, when you are in the early stages of imbalance and wish to head things off at the pass. I want to empower you to make better choices in your life, to understand that you are indeed your own best physician. If I need to see you weekly forever, then clearly I am not doing my job. The further away you get from that initial chief complaint, the closer we get to the ultimate stage of treatment.
3. Wellness
By now, your chief complaint is long gone. You have made and embraced those necessary lifestyle changes to ensure that it will not return. The next question I routinely get is: “So why do I need to keep coming? I feel well.” I respond somewhat tongue-in-cheek with “Well, can’t we always feel even better?” The means of diagnosis in Chinese medicine are so subtle that we can pick up even the slightest degree of imbalance. Perhaps you come in once a month or even just seasonally for a “tune-up.” This is about a commitment you make to yourself to see health not just as the absence of disease, but health as a dynamic state of being. One in which you have control. In many ways, this is the pinnacle of all treatment. To achieve Wellness, you have welcomed a new type of relationship with your doctor, they have responded to your desires for greater vitality, and you have worked together to not only successfully address your health concerns but to thrive and live a more optimal and engaged life, recognizing that if you don’t take care of your body, mind and spirit, where will you live.
May you be happy.
May you be healthy.
And may you live with ease.
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acupuncture,
Chinese Medicine,
preventive medicine,
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